Promises must be more than words, even if they require sacrifice.
First Pass – Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
How can increased loyalty help you in your relationships?
Your truest friends are the ones who will stand by you in your darkest moments―because they’re willing to brave the shadows with you―and in your greatest moments―because they’re not afraid to let you shine ~ Nicole Yatsonsky
Lessons on Loyalty That Make Us Grateful for Soft Traits
Together as a team we can do anything, and it is a privilege to sacrifice. Exhibiting loyalty toward one another is the glue that holds everything meaningful in life together.
We stand for, and with, one another, and our word is our bond to one another. We discovered a profound peace in this unity because our word is our bond. We simply do not break it. It’s important to be loyal to our dreams and to the dreams of others.
We can be loyal to one another without agreeing with them. We can honor their choices in life. If you are trying to work on loyalty on a very personal basis this simple yet effective exercise is for you.
Self-Paced Learning Exercise
List three to five traits that you feel strongly represent people who demonstrate true loyalty—traits that you highly respect and to which you aspire. None of us is perfect and we can always make improvements—that is the basis of the 7NNs.
Circle the one on which you would most like to make progress and write it at the top of a 3×5 card. Below that, write some actions you might take to move in the direction you want to go. These are areas where you can admit to yourself you are a little weak. This part of the exercise is critical and will require you to be honest and maybe even set your pride aside. If you do this you’ll see the greatest personal improvement.
Now take that card and fold it twice so it can fit into your pocket, or post it where you are going to run into it at least twice a day. The more frequently you see it, the better.
Measure your progress in this exercise by weeks:
Week 1: Every time you come across this folded card, unfold it, read what you wrote, and ask yourself how you are progressing. If you do this several times a day, by the end of week 1 you will know what is on this card by heart.
Week 2 and beyond: You shouldn’t have to read the card anymore, but each time you see it, ask yourself how you are progressing. The question is important because the more often you ask this question, the more your brain will work toward effectively solving the problem by helping you make better choices at the moment you need to make them.
Continue this process for as long as you feel you need to work on it, or until you’ve reached the desired level of loyalty.
Don’t stop with one word. Continue to do this with all five words and take as much time as necessary.
“We are all in the same boat, in a stormy sea, and we owe each other a terrible loyalty,” says G.K. Chesterton.
Second Pass – Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
The theme of this training program was inspired by a quote from Nelson Mandela. Keep it in mind as you make your way through the exercises.
“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”
Learn to appreciate and respect the life that is uniquely yours and continue to develop and grow each day by remaining open to new possibilities.
We have included a pre- and post-assessment for each respective pathway: